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Does anyone know how to create a Windows Theme correctly? I was wanting to be able to change the icon for my start menu, taskbar, background, pointers, and everything else. I have searched quite a bit around Google and even Bing and nobody has really given a straight answer on exactly what needs to be done to create a custom Windows theme. I need a guide that will give me as much control over my custom theme as I can possibly get. I have even thought about creating my own shell, but that is going to be held off until after I get this done. Any help/pointers in the right direction would be greatly appreciated!